After a great first date on

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After a great first date on 

The first few minutes after a great first date are heaven. Zing go your heart strings and the whole world should be happy and join in your feeling of enjoyment and you smile a lot more at everyone. Every time you receive a message you feel alive and special.

Your heartstrings feel like they’re being plucked by an orchestrate that seems to be playing just for you. Twenty-four hours later, those heartstrings are being twanged by doubts and a lack of confidence that seems to haunt your every step. This is because you haven’t been contacted and you really thought that the date went well and you should have heard from them by now !

Your date hasn’t called you, and you haven’t called them, and the whole thing is very confusing. Have you got it all wrong and did you misread the signs of the date and are you just being over keen and silly. Is it time to contact them or are you back to looking for other daters on

When is it right to call or message? Is it right to message each other directly after a date, on the same day or night. As a single woman I always appreciate my date asking if I got home safely and I would usually thank my date for a great evening, so I feel that a message at the end of the date is a good way to end the date and lets the dater know that you had a good time. Something like ‘I’m still smiling, thank you for a fun date.’ Is light hearted and gives your date an opportunity to express their feelings or lack of them, so that you will know exactly where you stand with things going forward or not. At least it stops the confusion and wondering over the next few days.

It keeps the momentum going and puts the ball in your date’s court and means that you can establish if the contact is likely to continue. The other side of the coin is that if you are smothered by messages and calls it can be off putting and make you feel uncomfortable. It is about creating a balance and being sensible. If it feels comfortable to you then it is likely to feel comfortable to your single dater. You need to be natural and comfortable as that is who you are and if that doesn’t fit in with your dater then maybe they are not the right dater for you, which is a sign to look for someone else on


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