Dealing With Arrogant People on singlesdatingcompany.com
Arrogant forty plus darters make for some of the most unpleasant people to be around. They don’t just think they’re better than you, they act as if they know they’re better than you. This can be literally the kiss of death in a forty plus dating relationship.
They also share a few traits and characteristics with narcissists, including believing that they are unique and only understood by high-status people. They are always expectant of admiration from other daters and have a large degree of entitlement, and a lack of empathy and consideration of other people on the date or forty plus relationship.
Their condescending attitudes and behaviours can make other people angry and unwilling to continue a date and certainly not interested in a forty plus relationship. You don’t have to let these controlling single forty plus daters bring you down.
Those people who stand up to arrogance are seen as having integrity and courage, as they’re not going to just let someone disrespect them.
Arrogant people have a knack for hurting other people’s feelings so asking them what they mean by a statement that they have made or telling them that they are being uncaring and hurtful can make them realise that they are not being approachable and a nice person to date. This could turn the situation around and they might show empathy and make them understand what it means to make someone feel crappy. Tell them that they’re hurting you emotionally. At least they will become aware of the fact that they’re doing damage; they might even try to stop.
Of course, everyone has their own opinions and thoughts and one opinion is not the universal truth. This shows the arrogant person that you want to give them the benefit of the doubt and believe they’re good-intentioned. Telling, your forty plus date, that they sound arrogant and suggest that they review their opinion. In fact, you actually give them a chance to save face by reiterating what they meant in a kinder way while simultaneously letting them know you won’t be pushed around. You do not need to be belittled when you are online dating and there is no need to have your opinions and desires dismissed. Their opinion is not the only opinion that matters and they are not the font of all knowledge.
Giving, themselves a higher status by claiming to have important friends and family is another way that they can appear to be higher status. This snob value is ridiculous and makes them feel that they are a cut above. The reality is that it makes them look even more insignificant that they are already.
If an arrogant dater has rudely steamrolled the entire conversation, on a singles date, you can rudely put an end to it. Arrogant daters like to talk and talk, so sometimes it’s necessary to simply end the conversation and the date before it derails completely.