Is your relationship on on social media more than reality


Is your relationship on on social media more than reality

With the obsession with  smart phones, instant photo updates and 24/7 online facebook communication, it’s easy to be very open about your relationship online and get caught up in over sharing . The over sharing can affect the reality of your lesbian romance.

If the first thing that you do after a first date is change your status from single to in a relationship you are over sharing and definitely jumping the gun. Lesbian daters should take things slow and steady and live the moment with each other rather than obsessing about online reviews.

You need to establish that you’re both feeling the same thing,  before you start enthusing on social media about your new relationship. Over sharing creates pressure that may make you appear needy and leave you vulnerable. The decision to make your relationship public should be a joint one – not everyone is comfortable with having their private business online. Every time you share something about the relationship you are sharing their business too, so you need their consent.

Some lesbian daters on need outside approval and they  can’t make any decisions about the relationship until  they have likes and approval from others online.

More and more daters seem to be reliant on online approval and find it difficult to make important decisions in their life, without a level of online likes . Whether it’s the choice of an engagement ring, holiday destination or moral dilemma, putting it on Facebook and waiting for your friend’s responses before you make a decision can be very damaging to a relationship. It takes the autonomy away from you as a dating couple on which allows your relationship grow and give you security as a couple. Things that you would ordinarily discuss in private as a couple are open for public debate and online people you may hardly know can have a say in major decisions in your life.

A relationship develops when we share our lives, thoughts, feelings and time with each other as a couple and the intimacy is allowed to grow naturally. This is best done in private than in the online forum.

If you are continually online when you are on a date posting pictures and selfies and seeking online approval you are not concentrating on each other as a couple. You are losing the reality of the relationship and you are living your life on social media.

The things that make a relationship deepen and grow are personal time and attention. When you’re on a date make sure that you’re really there, rather than feeding back to your friends on what you’re eating or what a good time you are having. This reduces the experience to something superficial rather than meaningful time spent with someone you’re really interested in. If you were really enjoying yourself you would be so absorbed in your date that you wouldn’t be thinking about your online status.

For a healthy  relationship  each dater has to be fully part of the experience and if one of you is more online than physically in the relationship it can be challenging to bring the relationship into the real world.

More than ever people are swayed by public opinion. When it comes to your relationship what matters is your own feelings about the relationship more than what other people say about it. Only the two people in a couple really know about the relationship. Anyone else’s opinions are basically much less important and based only snatches that are posted online.

When it comes to your love life remember to put the reality of your relationship before the online posts..






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